For the Woman Who’s Not Afraid of Interesting

You’re probably here because a link or post caught your eye.

This isn’t a blog, and I’m not selling anything (well, except myself, I suppose). I made this site to connect honestly with someone who’s intrigued by people who don’t quite fit the mould.

I'm a 31-year-old guy living just outside London. I’ve had a pretty unusual life so far, and now I’m looking for someone to share it with. The twist is that there’s a side of me not everyone understands. But the right woman will. Maybe that’s you.

You might be wondering why this is a website and not just a dating profile. Fair question. The short answer is that I wanted more space to be upfront, without being exposed. Dating apps aren’t built for nuance. What I want to say doesn’t fit neatly into a bio or a dropdown menu.

Writing like this lets me speak plainly, without apology. I know who I am. I like who I am. I also know I won’t be for everyone. That’s part of the point.

A Little About Me

I’ve been told I’m not what people expect, and I take that as a compliment. I’m confident, extroverted, curious, often intense, and almost always doing something most people wouldn't think of doing. I build things for fun. I chase ideas down rabbit holes. I say yes to things I probably should’ve thought through first.

But I’m not just a whirlwind of chaos and projects. I care deeply. I’m the kind of person who shows up when it matters. I believe in being dependable, steady, and loyal; not just when it’s convenient, but especially when it’s not. I take pride in being someone others can count on, and I want that kind of trust and closeness in a relationship too.

I also value connection. Real connection. I love conversation, especially the kind that goes beyond the usual surface-level back and forth. I’m a firm believer that you can learn something interesting from almost anyone, and I love when someone challenges the way I see the world.

Outside of work, I spend a lot of time around machines, bikes, and tools. I travel when I can, spend time at the gym (still working on the results), and I absolutely love food and wine. I think candlelit dinners should be part of everyday life, not just special occasions. But I’ll also never turn down a greasy spoon if the company is good.

The Unusual Bit

This part matters, so I want to say it clearly.

I enjoy crossdressing.

I’m a straight man. I feel very comfortable being a man. But I’ve always enjoyed wearing typically feminine clothes, including skirts, dresses, heels, makeup, lingerie. I don’t see it as a contradiction. For me, it’s expressive, playful, and freeing. It doesn’t make me feel like less of a man. If anything, it makes me feel more connected to all the parts of myself.

It’s not something I do all the time, and it’s not part of my public life, but it is part of me. And in the context of a relationship, it’s something I’d want to share. Not just as a secret I keep to myself, but as something my partner can understand, enjoy, and maybe even take part in sometimes.

That doesn’t mean I expect someone to be into it already, or to fully get it from the start. But I’m looking for someone who’s open enough to explore it with me. To accept it, be curious about it, and maybe find joy in it too. Because when it’s shared, it becomes something even more meaningful, a layer of intimacy that goes beyond the usual.

I’ve learned that trying to hide this part of me leads to distance, discomfort, and eventually disappointment. I’d rather be honest upfront and find someone who accepts the full picture.

What I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a woman who’s kind, open-minded, and thoughtful. Someone who doesn’t expect things to always be conventional, but who still values trust, stability, and genuine connection.

You might be outgoing or quiet, adventurous or homey. What matters most is that you’re emotionally mature, grounded, and comfortable being with someone who isn’t afraid to be himself, even when that means stepping outside the usual lines.

Ideally, you’re someone who loves a bit of romance, has a sense of humour, and can appreciate both the fun and the serious sides of life. You’re not scared of depth. And you’d rather have an honest, complex relationship than a simple but shallow one.

If you've ever felt like the dating world doesn’t have space for people who are a little different, not in a forced, quirky way, but in a real, layered, fully-human way, then we might actually get along quite well.

Interested?

If this has sparked something, even just curiosity, I’d genuinely love to hear from you.
You can message me using the form below.
No pressure, no expectations. Just an honest connection to start with, and we’ll see where it goes.

And if not, thank you for reading anyway. I hope you find what you’re looking for.